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The 36-Year-Old Virgin

The 36-Year-Old Virgin

How abstinence champion Lakita Garth kept the faith during the long years before her wedding night—and beyond.
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Lakita warns single Christian women against "missionary dating," or trying to convert unbelievers while you get emotionally, and too-often physically, entangled. "You can't be the key to his spiritual maturity," she says. Lakita always realized that, because of her strong convictions to be holy, her dating pool would be smaller—which was okay with her. "To be single was to be undistracted in my devotion to God," she says.

When Lakita's relationship with Jeff became serious, they developed boundaries—which she notes many mature singles don't do—and stuck to them. The key to making it work? "The boundaries have to be backed by conviction." She emphasizes that her friendship and business relationship with Jeff was the foundation upon which romantic love blossomed in its proper time.

Lakita's testimony of bold sexual purity has garnered much attention, in and out of Christian circles. As a single, she was featured in Essence magazine, and last year she shared her just-married bliss with the ladies of ABC's The View and readers of People. Now, almost a year into married life, she still says, "I'm so glad I waited. Everything is new and exciting. It's like going on a rollercoaster for the very first time!"

Her final word to singles: "Keep your options open." God's perfect mate for you may not look or sound like your "fantasy mate."

For more information about Lakita, visit www.lakitagarth.com. Pamela Toussaint speaks and writes on issues of holiness in singleness. She is coauthor of His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right (WaterBrook Press) with Christopher Burge. Visit her at www.hisrules.com.

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June 16, 2013  9:11am

Hi, I wondered if her husband was also a virgin when they were married?

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February 22, 2013  3:35am

I agree with the previous comment by Chris. Lakita Garth is "totally self-absorbed/self-righteous." This article does not really reflect her that way, however, I have seen her speak to audiences and she passes judgment far too quickly and concludes that people are sinners (or, in her words "anti-christ"), not for having liberal ideas, but for simply asking questions about liberal ideas. Our religion allows for the forgiveness of sin, but the way she preaches, if someone sins, then they are an evil anti-christ, and she considers that person a hypocrite because they are not supposed to sin. I've heard/seen her often criticize and point out the sins of others, in a very self-righteous way. She may not intend to do so, yet she is very self-absorbed when opining on sin and sexual issues. In debates, she often misunderstands issues and speaks over people with different opinions, as if only her opinion counts. Her cause would be more successful if someone else represented on her behalf.

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January 02, 2013  8:41pm

Great Job, May God bless your marriage and encourage others to do so.We are loosing the young generation for immorality.

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