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The 36-Year-Old Virgin

The 36-Year-Old Virgin

How abstinence champion Lakita Garth kept the faith during the long years before her wedding night—and beyond.
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Lakita warns single Christian women against "missionary dating," or trying to convert unbelievers while you get emotionally, and too-often physically, entangled. "You can't be the key to his spiritual maturity," she says. Lakita always realized that, because of her strong convictions to be holy, her dating pool would be smaller—which was okay with her. "To be single was to be undistracted in my devotion to God," she says.

When Lakita's relationship with Jeff became serious, they developed boundaries—which she notes many mature singles don't do—and stuck to them. The key to making it work? "The boundaries have to be backed by conviction." She emphasizes that her friendship and business relationship with Jeff was the foundation upon which romantic love blossomed in its proper time.

Lakita's testimony of bold sexual purity has garnered much attention, in and out of Christian circles. As a single, she was featured in Essence magazine, and last year she shared her just-married bliss with the ladies of ABC's The View and readers of People. Now, almost a year into married life, she still says, "I'm so glad I waited. Everything is new and exciting. It's like going on a rollercoaster for the very first time!"

Her final word to singles: "Keep your options open." God's perfect mate for you may not look or sound like your "fantasy mate."

For more information about Lakita, visit www.lakitagarth.com. Pamela Toussaint speaks and writes on issues of holiness in singleness. She is coauthor of His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right (WaterBrook Press) with Christopher Burge. Visit her at www.hisrules.com.

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January 02, 2013  8:41pm

Great Job, May God bless your marriage and encourage others to do so.We are loosing the young generation for immorality.

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abel boayali

December 31, 2012  1:22pm

tanz lakita and congratulations,may God ur Father graciouly bless ur marriage,may this generation see that u are highly favored and call u blessed.I am grately encourage by ur testimony and am sure God is proud of u as i am,my sister.

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December 28, 2012  1:11am

Chris - Either you have never read the Bible, are in willful disobedience to its words, or are playing devil's advocate for the sake of doing so. Sex before marriage is spoken against of quite often in the Bible. These scriptures should also clear up any question of what sexual immorality is - http://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?quicksearch=fornicator&qs_version= NKJV. If someone is so devoted, as you mentioned, then they obviously have the will to find a way. Marriage licenses cost about $30; a pastor to officiate approximately the same. The thousand dollar wedding in America is a choice and not more important than the actual marriage. Also not sure what maxim you are speaking of as people lived hundreds of years in biblical days. God's word doesn't waver according to ANY culture. It is absolute.

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