Start the expedition
So what new experiences should you and your spouse plan? Start by trying any of these—and remember that the word new is your objective:
Visit a new place. Go out of town to do it. Take in a seasonal event in a neighboring community or state. Stay in a bed-and-breakfast instead of a chain motel. Explore a quaint town.
Eat at a new restaurant. A fancy or expensive meal isn't required. You can even afford the extravagant restaurants by going at lunch, or just for coffee and dessert. Something fun is to find cafes that are popular with the locals, the kind with red vinyl tablecloths and photocopied menus.
Try a new activity. The activity should be physically possible for both partners and of mutual interest. It's okay if it stretches you out of your comfort zone a bit. Try mountain biking together. Even if you've never done it before, you'll see spectacular sights and will retell (and exaggerate) the trail stories for years to come.
Attend a new event. Take in a sporting event, concert, play, festival, or seminar. Be the kind of couple who'll dress up for a Mozart concert by the local symphony one weekend and cruise down to a neighboring county for a demolition derby the next.
Watch a new movie together. And make it a springboard for conversation. Which character or scene made an impression upon you? Which character or scene could you identify with? One great movie to watch is The Rookie with its theme of fulfilled and unfulfilled dreams. The movie will lead into a great talk about your current season of life and future hopes.
Read a new book together. Share your reactions to your readings. If you're reading nonfiction, the completion of each chapter provides a natural place to reflect. You can do the same thing with magazine articles or audiotapes.
Get to know a new tribe. Much of what made the Lewis and Clark expedition so fascinating was meeting diverse tribes of Indians throughout the journey. Forging relationships with the Lakotas, Mandans, Blackfeet, and Sioux made their trek far richer in its adventure. We can do the same by investing in new relationships. Invite an unchurched couple from your neighborhood over for homemade ice cream. Ask the nice couple you chat with every Saturday at your daughter's soccer game to join you for pizza back at the house. Invite two couples from your church or Bible study class to your home for a cookout.