Love Life Check-Up

We check our oil, our teeth, and our bed springs. We tune up our cars, our lawn mowers, and our weed whackers. But sometimes we need a love life check-up.

Answer these questions separately, then cuddle up with your spouse and discuss them. It should be an unhurried evening when you've been getting along and aren't having secret fantasies about new fishing gear or having the laundry all caught up. Prepare some snacks, light some candles. You just might get in the mood!

Make sure you're out of the bedroom, though, so you can discuss things without tarnishing the atmosphere of your love nest. Don't be accusatory and pray that you will be willing to hear the heart of your spouse.

1. The material atmosphere and surroundings of our bedroom are important to me.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

2. I feel that our libido is compatibly matched.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

3. I feel comfortable talking about sexual issues with my spouse.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

4. I consider the physical attractiveness of my spouse to be of critical importance to our intimacy.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

5. The husband should take the primary lead in sexual activity.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

6. The wife has equal responsibility in initiating sexual encounters.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

7. I would enjoy role play or appropriate fantasies in our lovemaking.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

8. I feel confident that I know how to satisfy my spouse in the bedroom.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

9. I feel that orgasm is the primary pleasure of lovemaking.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

10. Feeling connected is the primary pleasure of lovemaking.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

11. When our sex life is satisfying, I feel more satisfied with other areas of our marriage.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

12. I am comfortable with my body during lovemaking.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

13. Procreation is the primary purpose of lovemaking.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

14. After sex I like to have conversation.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

15. After sex I like to cuddle.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

16. After sex I like to sleep.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

17. A healthy sex life is critical to a sense of play in marriage.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

18. I like to vary positions in lovemaking.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

19. I like to initiate new positions in lovemaking.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

20. My perspective on sex is healthy and mature.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

21. My perspective on sex is biblically based.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

22. These are the factors that most affect the quality or frequency of our lovemaking. [Circle all that apply].
Past experience
Lack of experience
Children
Lack of time
Lack of sleep
Lack of desire

23. I am satisfied with the number of times we make love each week.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

24. Visual stimulation is important to me.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

25. Romantic closeness is important to me.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

26. I would be willing to make love in a variety of locations provided there was adequate privacy.
Strongly Agree
Agree
No Opinion
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

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