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My Goal: Gratitude

My Goal: Gratitude

Resolve to stop taking your spouse for granted
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An attainable goal is something reasonable to work toward so that I'm not setting myself up for failure. For example, cooking his favorite meal once a month might be attainable, while cooking something he loves every single day would probably leave me feeling defeated and exhausted after just a couple of meals.

With these two simple guidelines in place, I set out to take baby steps in showing my husband that I appreciate him, despite my daily failings in reacting angrily or impatiently with him.

My Goal

My measurable and attainable goal was to tell my husband once a day one reason I am grateful for him. It may seem simple, but simplicity is what makes it possible to achieve.

As any married person knows, one of the biggest frustrations in marriage is not being able to read the other person's mind. This leads to frustration and causes us to miss out on positive things our spouses think about us. So while I considered some other simple goals, such as cleaning up the toys at the end of each day to create a welcoming environment for my husband to come home to, I decided to go the direct route of just telling him how I appreciate him on a daily basis.

A Grateful Heart

I started toward my goal with the purpose of showing my husband I didn't take him for granted, but surprisingly it has been a blessing to me as well. My daily goal gives me something positive to focus on during some of the more mind-numbing and frustrating parts of my day. The exercise helps me not only to show my husband my gratefulness but to have a more grateful heart to begin with.

I'm starting to understand why Paul gave the following instruction: "And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise" (Philippians 4:8).

No matter how much we multitask throughout the day, our minds don't usually multitask positive and negative thoughts at the same time. So when I think about the reasons I am grateful for my husband, I don't have room to think about the things he hasn't done or the ways we disagree.

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Innocentia Masetlha

January 05, 2013  1:39am

Thanks so much for the article I just saw myself in it.December holidays are a nightmare to our marriage as I have to take the whole responsibility of the kids,my nanny is away.I feel that is too much and everything my husband does seem wrong and I snap all the time,this brings unhappiness and my husband avoids me by going out and comes back very late,this also makes things worse and we end up not enjoying the best time of family and friends during festive season.I just wanted to kill myself this time around as the kids were too demanding and my husband was not always home because he knew that I will be snapping all the time.

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Laura

January 04, 2013  2:46pm

After 16 years of marriage....not a day goes by that my husband and I don't tell each other that we love the other. We also make a point to kiss everyday....not just a peck on the cheek but a passionate kiss. There are times that we both are not in the best of moods but we have to stop and take a step back. We also make it a priority to be in church together and he helps me in my ministry as Children's Pastor. Best wishes everyone!

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Anonymous

September 07, 2012  9:17am

From someone who has been married for 34 years and seen MANY of my friends marriages end, your article is absolutely correct. When we become overwhelmed with our daily routine as moms, your husband is always the last person on your list to get anything from you because he isn't as needy as your children. I found saying I Love You once a day was a good way to do something positive for our marriage. Praying together also made a huge difference for us, even just once a week. When I made an effort to intentionally appreciate my husband more, he reciprocated without even realizing it. You just want to treat someone the way they treat you. Little things can make the biggest difference!

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