Hearing the Cry of a Mother's Heart
Back to the graceful, natural mothers … no amount of balance, wisdom, or insight can shape a perfect mother. Everyone struggles. We should find this tremendously freeing because it helps to know we do not struggle alone. The old cliché "misery loves company" applies.
At this life stage where emotions feel crisp and near crumbling, even a simple invitation can shape our days and weeks. Author Adele Calhoun says, "Invitations challenge and remake us. They can erode and devastate. And they can heal and restore us. Being wanted, welcomed, invited and included are some of the most mending experiences on the planet."
So it appears there is no woman at the park who is perfectly beyond the reaches of friendship, no woman who could not use a warm, genuine invitation. Opportunities to connect and encourage one another abound, for there is no label that is permanently affixed. We are on the same botched, imperfect, sometimes losing team. And the joy here is that the bench is filled with women like us. From the seemingly elegant to the obviously clunky, our shared yearnings and basic needs as mothers connect us.
Just like Christine (working mom of two who struggled to have children) said, "So many, many years I wanted a baby, and a daughter at that, and when I got her I was so certain I was going to be the mom who got it right—I would have motherhood down. And when it didn't go that way, I didn't know what to do!" She went on to say that because of the friendship and support of other moms, she is finally finding her way.