If you've ever stopped short of reaching out to mentor someone or asking someone to mentor you, Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson have some advice for you: Do it! Their book on mentoring, Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe, will inspire you to listen to that nudge in your spirit, to pray, and to step out in faith. Your life will change. Theirs did.
TCW: How did your mentoring relationship start?
Sarah Mae: At first, Sally was just the name on a book that I had. But when I was hosting a national Christian women's blogging conference and found out she had a blog, I asked her to speak. She said yes! We spoke briefly at the conference, but after the conference she called me up and asked, "Have you ever been mentored?" She told me she believed God had put me on her heart and she wanted to invest in my life, mentor me, and be an advocate for me.
Sally Clarkson: I was just being obedient to what the Holy Spirit had called me to do.
Sarah Mae: I thought she was just being nice, but I figured eventually she would stop calling. She didn't—and to this day, two years later, we talk every week, sometimes several times a week.
TCW: When we hear the word mentor, we don't usually attach it to mothering. We think of things like upward mobility in a career rather than as part of our motherhood journey.
Sarah: And isn't that sad? Jesus mentored his disciples. Titus 2 talks about older women teaching the younger women to love their husbands and their children. Sally says if it has to be taught, it must be supernatural. That's why we need each other and why we need older women investing in the lives of younger women.
Sally: In the absence of biblical convictions, people will go the way of culture. There are voices of every kind on the Internet, in the media, and even in your church, and they are all competing with what you believe.
When I was raising my kids, the church wasn't teaching about what I lived or what I'd invested my life in, so when there was a mess or if I yelled at my children, I would listen to the voices and think, "Oh, maybe they're right." These voices attack your security and undermine your convictions.
Sarah: Sally is so right about the voices. I have kids and there are always five million reasons to feel guilty about something! But you have to go before God and figure out your position; then, when you hear those voices, you don't have to feel guilty.