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How to Love Life Regardless of Your Love Life

How to Love Life Regardless of Your Love Life

Encouragement from Mandy Hale, “The Single Woman,” to brighten your Valentine’s Day
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Mandy Hale is on a mission to empower women everywhere to never settle for less than God's best. Known as "The Single Woman" and a Twitter powerhouse, Mandy has made a platform for herself by inspiring single women everywhere to practice joyful living regardless of their relationship status.

Mandy's new book, I've Never Been to Vegas, but My Luggage Has, hits the shelves in March. In it, Mandy shares her journey of past relationships, faith, and how "happily ever after" is not as far off as we think it is. With Valentine's Day right around the corner, Today's Christian Woman caught up with Mandy to hear her thoughts on singleness.

Sometimes the only way God can get us to listen to him is to set us apart and put us in a season that seems like isolation, but it's really an opportunity for us to hear him.

Why do you think some women feel that being single is synonymous with being lonely?

I've had moments where I start to look around and wonder why it feels like I am on the outside looking in—everyone else is out with couples and doing amazing things with their friends. I've found that those seasons of loneliness have happened because God is trying to speak into my heart. If we aren't willing to drown out the noise by ourselves, then he comes in and removes the distractions. The loneliest times are when God speaks the loudest. There has never been a lonely season of my life that I haven't had a great breakthrough with God. As a single woman there will most likely be lonely moments, but it doesn't mean that a lonely moment is an alone moment or an empty moment. It's an opportunity to draw closer to God and really listen to his voice in a unique way without being distracted.

Why do you think some women struggle with feeling like their lives won't start until they have a ring on their finger?

I think it's an epidemic with women that they feel they aren't whole or worthy without a relationship. I think our culture is somewhat to blame. The influence of culture causes women to feel there is something wrong with them if they are single at a certain age—late twenties, thirties, and beyond. We need to get aligned with who God says we are. If you don't grasp your worth and the fact that you have a great purpose regardless your relationship status, you will never fully feel complete.

In my own journey I'm figuring out that my single time is an uninhibited time to spend with God. It's a great opportunity to chase him and figure out his will for my life. When two people come together in a relationship, they can make each other's future greater, but individually we still have a purpose for our lives that has nothing to do with a man.

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Ruth Nathaniel

August 22, 2014  10:55am

great article. Thank you so much!

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Monica Thomas

August 18, 2014  7:01pm

I've never heard of Mandy Hale before, but I'm a huge fan of hers after this one interview. As a 20 year old college student, who's never been on a date or had a boyfriend, I can easily get down on myself and start wondering what's wrong with me. It's so nice to hear that I'm not alone in this struggle, and to hear that it really isn't a struggle at all. I've been slowly learning what Mandy has already discovered- singleness can be God's greatest way to speak to us. So often us women make the mistake of looking to find purpose within a boyfriend/husband, when the only one who can truly fulfill our sense of selves is the Lord Almighty. Thank you for your wisdom Mandy! Keep growing in God and stay strong!

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April 22, 2014  8:19am

You are an eye opener. helps me know am no alone in this journey of singlehood .

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