If you want to be a happier mom, it’s time to make some changes. Here are five ways to find your mom joy again:
1. Become Healthy
I love these words by Erma Bombeck: “In general my children refuse to eat anything that hasn’t danced in television.” As your child’s diet goes, so goes yours. I know I’m not the only one to scrape up all the leftovers from my kids plates. I have one mom-friend who has this go-to phrase, “I am not a garbage can.” Make the commitment, for yourself and your children, to eat healthy food. You will feel better, have more energy, and sleep more soundly. As you combine eating nutritious foods with regular exercise and a good night’s rest, you will be much, much happier (and nicer).
2. Become Action Oriented
You’ve stared in disbelief as your child did the same wrong thing for the hundredth time. You’ve lectured about forgotten homework, messy rooms, and undone chores. Take heart—the war is won by the smart mom who doesn’t respond with endless explanations but with action. Establish yourself as the leader in the way you speak, even with your posture. Stand up straight and give instructions once. Be clear and unapologetic when consequences must be given.
The mindset here is “Bring it on,” not “I hope he doesn’t call my bluff.” Proverbs 15:32 says, “If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding.” If you are wishy-washy in your discipline, your child will reject your authority. This pattern could be a detriment to his or her relationship with God, a teacher, a future boss, or even family members.
3. Become Prayerful
When faced with a problem, where do you turn first? If we’re honest, many times the answer is Google. Yet the Bible doesn’t say, “I lift up my eyes to my phone—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Internet, the holder of all information.” If you need wisdom as a mom (and who doesn’t?), first turn to God in prayer. You don’t need a PhD to be an effective praying mom. You can shoot quick prayers up to heaven, participate in a Moms in Prayer group, or pray using Bible verses to align your prayers with God’s will. For example, you can pray: “Lord, I pray that (insert your child’s name) would seek wisdom, for that is far more valuable than rubies. Nothing my child desires can compare with it” (Proverbs 8:11).
For Further StudyDownloadable resources to go deeper
- Carolyn Custis James: What It Means to Be a Woman in MinistryeBook Format Available! Author and speaker Carolyn Custis James offers leadership insights for women.