Today's Christian Woman

Your article is also very one sided. You make it sound like its a burden for him to be faithful with those wondering eyes and hidden desires, you praise him for not telling you about those possible sexual conquests that he's turned down and not told you about, and criminalized yourself for snuggling with your toddler in the morning while he's going to work or feeling the life BOTH of you created while he's sexually deprived. You put down women for being frazzled after spending the day with frustrating children. You really take disrespect for women and man praise to a new sick level. Its like you've been reading a 1950's book on how to be the perfect wifey. You're the perfect doormat. Remember, the door swings both ways. Men should be lucky we even bare their children , don't sleep with whomever we find attractive as much as we'd like to. We wash their nasty laundary. We do without when they feel too tired or too old to perform. Think twice sister.

Wedding rings mean nada. It is rather niave to thing a man has integrety because he sports a wedding ring. In my experience, those mean nothing.

I like the idea of your article and agree that fidelity is a critical trait, often ignored even by people who claim to be believers. Outside of that though, there are some pretty serious gender stereotypes going on in your article... that the man is always waiting with baited breath to 'get some' sex if the woman will just throw him a bone so to speak. He has 'bulging forearms and huge shoulders' (as a few of the commenters have already decried) etc. These kinds of stereotypes get perpetually perpetuated in the Christian community and it becomes old and frustrating! Fidelity? Awesome. Let's celebrate it! Gender stereotypes? Let's try to downplay them a little. Please!

I am a man who did all those things. I was a christian, had my struggles with appreciating beauty in other women. Never strayed though, but I don't really know how I would have handled it if I had the opportunity. You see I am a small man, without the bulging forearms and broad shoulders, so that never was a problem. I was left for someone with those things, and I'm sure my wife is now( even though she is probably not a christian anymore either) treating him with the care and love you describe, despite the fact that I'm sure he has the same struggles. I do applaud your effort to urge wives to look at what men do though and appreciate that. Even if they don't feel as small and feminine in his strong enough,if not impressive arms...

I love the tone of this article and so wish my husband had been one of the men you describe. He did, indeed, wear his wedding ring but was often caught staring at younger, more endowed women in low-cut blouses and/or short skirts, and he did more than his fair share of oogling online at women without character, if you know what I mean. I applaud those men who truly deserve our admiration, but my heart breaks for all of us long-married women whose husbands wear their rings and still stray. It's not about the ring...it's about the man; his heart, his spirit, his commitment to God and his family. Blessings to all of you women who can claim you truly have a man like that as your husband!