What does it take to rebuild the friendship with your spouse?
Julie saw our hearts on the movie screen the other night, against a sunset's fusion of red and gold. She said we were on the bow of a great ship, our arms outstretched as if flying. Then we embraced, our lips met, and for an eternal instant, our lives melted into one.
As we drove home afterward, the oldies station whispering sweet nothin's, we tried to duplicate that kiss. Julie gasped, which fed my ego until I realized I was about to hit my own iceberg—a light pole!
Aren't we all suckers for love? Tender, passionate, embracing love. Love that lifts and protects. In this fast-paced, hectic world, we need love—and we need that wonderful person we're in love with—more than ever. God designed and desired it that way.
But often life's demands soak up our energy and attention, leaving nothing to fuel passion. Stoking that fire becomes a real struggle.
Paradoxically, friendship can turn the struggle into a labor of love.
True, intimate friendship is love in action. An intimate friend is there physically, emotionally, and spiritually when needed. Friends build on the other person's strengths; they understand, challenge, and sometimes ignore the other person's weaknesses. Friends sometimes read each other's thoughts. They laugh and, at times, their tears mingle.
Acting as an intimate friend can re-ignite the fire and turn a predictable marriage into that kiss against a sunset. How can you revitalize your friendship with your spouse?1