Just because you and your husband are Christians doesn't mean you're automatically in "spiritual sync." Often one spouse lags behind in spiritual development—sometimes far behind. Your husband may be indifferent about growing spiritually; other times, he may show enthusiasm for deepening his faith, but your progress vastly outpaces his.
The reality is, we're all fellow strugglers seeking to become more Christlike, and God works in each of us differently. But if it appears you overshadow your spouse in spiritual growth, the following steps can help you achieve better marital balance. Use this checklist to proceed with godly sensitivity, loving concern, and an encouraging heart.
1.Ask the tough question: Is your spouse really a Christian? The Bible makes it clear that some people who claim to be followers of Jesus really aren't. "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven," Jesus said in Matthew 7:21.
Those are sobering words! The truth is, many sincerely believe they're Christian, but there's no evidence in their lives to back up that assertion. At the root of their problem may be a fundamental misunderstanding about what it means to become a Christ-follower.
John 1:12 describes what it means to become an authentic Christian: "Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God." A person must not only believe Jesus is the unique Son of God who died for our sins, but he must receive him as his forgiver and leader. Only then does a person become adopted into God's family.1