Lift Lines

Questions to take your marriage to higher levels

Just as ski slopes progress from bunny hills to black diamonds, so conversation starters in marriage range from simple to sizzling. But with greater risk comes greater adventure. So hit the "slopes" with these questions on your next date and watch your relationship take off!

Level 1: Put on those skis

What's your favorite hobby?
Tell me about the best vacation you ever had.
If you won an all-expense-paid trip to anywhere in the world, where would you go?
When do you feel most glad that you married me?
What's the best compliment I could give you?
How do you like to be pampered?
What are your favorite hymns or choruses? Why are they your favorites?
What one question do you want God to answer?
What new Thanksgiving or Christmas tradition would you like to start this year?
Who are your heroes or people you've looked up to over the years?
What really gets on your nerves?
Do I touch you enough? In what ways would you like me to physically show my love for you in public?
What stresses have you been feeling the last few months?
Did your parents pray for you? What did that mean to you?

Level 2: The bunny hill

Do you feel that I spend enough of my free time with you? What things cut into our time together?
What do you enjoy most about your life? What would you like to change?
Describe two of your favorite memories of things we've done together.
What types of little gifts would go a long way toward showing you how much I love you?
Do you think you spend most of your time doing what you're well suited to do? If not, what needs to change? What would you most enjoy doing on a daily basis?
What do you think your spiritual gifts are? How can you work at developing them? How can I help?
Tell me again how you became a Christian.
What helps you grow closer to Christ? What things interfere with that process?
If you could meet anyone in the Bible, whom would it be? Why? What would you ask?
How well did your parents communicate?
Do I say "I love you" enough? If not, how often should I say it? When?

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