Successful, smart, savvy women ignore it.
Fine, fine. We'll accept a little, inexpensive token of your affection this Valentine's Day. We all know this is a silly holiday, but nevertheless, we'll accept a small something. Yes, we will.
Um. Where is it? What is it? Certainly, it needn't be too much! But not too little either. Just don't let it be … nothing at all.
And so begins the expectant, tapping foot.
This is not a phenomenon exclusive to Valentine's Day. The tapping foot can contaminate a relationship all year round. After we say those beloved "I do's," spouses face a lifetime of coming to terms with this conundrum: "I do want to give you what you want! However, I also do … not always know how."
In the midst of that reality, a tapping foot serves one purpose: it stresses everybody out.
But if you're like me, it's a little hard to knock it off.
The expectant tapping can come in many disguises. For instance, back when I was newly married, I told my husband that I liked a particular inexpensive fake pearl necklace.
Not long after that, ta da! My husband gave me a beautiful red velvet box. Inside?
A pearl necklace. Real pearls.
You can imagine my reaction.
"Um, what the …? These don't look plastic."
They were not.
"These don't look cheap."
They were not.
"How much exactly did you spend on this?" I was hoping he kept the receipt.
I mean, we were poor. Super poor. And my heritage on that subject was tainted. My family had had a history of financial problems that left me terrified about money moving forward. Didn't he know this?1