Joy Eggerichs knows a thing or two about answering questions. In her “Ask Joy” video segments and blog posts (at LoveAndRespectNow.com), she dishes about dating, friendship, breakups, marriage, faith, and the single life. She’s also been working with her dad, best-selling author Emerson Eggerichs, on The Illumination Project—a DVD curriculum for Millennials dialoguing about marriage and singleness across generational boundaries. We connected with Joy to ask her about family relationships, the holidays, and how singles can build real connection with married family members and friends.
What issues do you most often get asked about at Love and Respect (Now)? Why?
My peers who write in and ask me questions are men, women, single, dating, and married. Many of the questions are ones like: Is there only one person for me? Can guys and girls be friends? How do I communicate to my spouse if . . . ? I’m feeling like time is running out; will I be single forever?
I work for my parents, Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs, who have a marriage ministry called Love and Respect. Over the past five years of making videos and writing posts in an effort to help my generation with relationships, I’ve found most people are just longing to “get it right.”
I also get the sense from many of the Christians that write to me that an underlying question is wondering if God is trying to trick them. I feel my heart wanting to shout from the rooftops, “He loves you and is not trying to trick you!” I try to give non-formulaic answers based on either things I’ve learned from my parents and their message of Love and Respect or biblical insights or, hopefully, just some common sense. Ultimately, I pray I point people toward seeking wisdom.1