Growing up, my dad kept a coin jar on his dresser. Every night when he got home from work, the first thing he did was head upstairs to change his clothes. You could hear the familiar jangling of pennies as they spilled from his pocket into the jar. When I was about nine years old, I decided his coins should be mine. Over time I pilfered a few nickels here, and a handful of pennies there. Before I knew it, I had successfully swindled my dad out of all of his loose change, and he never even noticed.
Sometime later, guilt gripped me. I knew that what I'd been doing was considered stealing. I had no way to explain away my behavior. With a pounding heart, I penned an apology to him, confessing my sin and asking for forgiveness. I tucked the note under his coin jar along with a pile of pennies as restitution.
I waited anxiously for my dad to confront me. Day one went by, and he didn't say anything. Another day passed; still nothing. And then another, and another. Eventually, I forgot about the note.
Then one day, out of the blue, my dad stepped into my bedroom, and said, "Marian, I got your note and the pennies." My heart raced; my throat felt like a marble was lodged in it. I didn't know what to expect next. I didn't see a belt gripped in his hand, as I would have expected after behaving so badly, and he didn't seem especially upset. In fact, if I didn't know better, he seemed on the verge of tears. But that didn't make any sense. I had wronged him. He had every right to be mad and punish me. Instead, he said, "Thank you," and gave me a hug.1