Dr. Juli Slattery's ministry, Authentic Intimacy, is committed to helping Christian women develop a spiritually and emotionally healthy approach to their sexuality. A TCW featured contributor, Juli is a psychologist, co-founder (with Linda Dillow) of Authentic Intimacy, and co-author of the DVD Bible study series Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? TCW's Marian V. Liautaud connected with Juli to explore how sexuality is intricately connected with Christian spiritual growth.
Sexuality is very complex, isn't it? It's about so much more than just the act of sex.
There's a difference between sex and sexuality. Our culture has elevated sex way above what it should be, but it has not given enough credence to sexuality. Your sexuality is something that is always there, even if sex isn't involved in it at the time. For example, a single woman is still a sexual being created in the image of God. Her sexuality is not compartmentalized; it's integrated into all the aspects of her being—intellectual, emotional, relational, and sexual. It's a core part of who God created her to be.
Because we tend to only talk about the physical act of sex, we ignore the fact that it's our sexuality that ultimately drives us into relationship with a man, makes us desire marriage, expresses our longing to be known, heard, understood, and protected—our longing to be vulnerable, soul to soul, with another person, and ultimately, our longing to be known by God.1