All marriages—even the best of them—are challenging. If marriage were easy, the divorce statistics in this country wouldn’t be so daunting. According to current CDC.gov statistics, one-fifth of all first marriages won’t make it past the five-year mark, and after ten years the likelihood of failure jumps to 33 percent. A marriage of two career-minded people, while increasingly common, offers some special complications and challenges.
It’s relatively easy to be supportive of one another’s careers before marriage. At that point, your career is basically just between you and God. A lot of young people mistakenly go into marriage thinking they can continue with this approach. However, these couples quickly realize that when two people get married, their careers do too—and that means they have a lot to figure out. For example, when everyone works all day, who’s in charge of buying groceries? Who mows the lawn? Whose travel schedule or promotion opportunity takes precedence? Who takes time off when a kid, elderly parent, or beloved pet gets sick?
Dual-career marriages can be vibrant and healthy, but you won’t get there by chance. Whether you’ve been married for weeks or decades, there are things you can do today to bolster and fortify your marriage for the future.1