Put on Your Own Socks
My oldest child, Ethan, and I had this bedtime ritual. I would bring him a clean pair of white socks and put them on his feet every night. I was literally waiting on him hand and foot. One evening—when he was in the fifth grade—I realized, Ethan is way too old for this. What am I doing? I told him my discovery, and he laughed, “But I like it when you do it; you’re my servant!” He’s been putting on his own socks ever since.
You know, many times it’s not our children who have a hard time assuming new roles and responsibilities around the house—the problem lies with us. We don’t want to let go of the feeling of being needed and important. We complain about being stressed out and pulled and tugged to do every single little thing that revolves around our children, yet we’re the ones who engineer the dependence.
If you want to be a happier mom, it’s time to make some changes. Here are five ways to find your mom joy again:
1. Become Healthy
I love these words by Erma Bombeck: “In general my children refuse to eat anything that hasn’t danced in television.” As your child’s diet goes, so goes yours. I know I’m not the only one to scrape up all the leftovers from my kids plates. I have one mom-friend who has this go-to phrase, “I am not a garbage can.” Make the commitment, for yourself and your children, to eat healthy food. You will feel better, have more energy, and sleep more soundly. As you combine eating nutritious foods with regular exercise and a good night’s rest, you will be much, much happier (and nicer).