Do you need to change what you wear in the bedroom? Like me, maybe you choose your sleepwear based on comfort and not based on enticing your husband. I much prefer a "Life is Good" T-shirt to Victoria's Secret lingerie in the bedroom, but we will save that conversation for another day. Even though I often write and speak on spicing up sex in marriage, this blog post is about a different kind of “bedroom clothes.”
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. (Colossians 3:12–14, NIV)
A few years ago, I read these verses and started praying, Lord, help me to treat other people like this. . . to be compassionate, kind, gentle, forgiving, and loving. I really thought the Lord would convict me to make cookies for my neighbor. Instead, the conviction from the Holy Spirit came from a whole different angle: Juli, love your husband.
Overall, I'm pretty loving toward my husband. However, I don’t always love him in the way he would most like to receive love, specifically sexual intimacy. Honestly, there are times that I would rather love him in every other way. I’m willing to make his favorite dinner and listen patiently about struggles at work, but in this one area I am naturally selfish, unforgiving, and insensitive.1