I can remember being a teenager, babysitting at my sister’s house. On her nightstand, she had a book about sex. I was intrigued . . . I was curious! I would never have admitted that to anyone back then, but in the privacy of her house I looked through the book. Asking questions about sex was just awkward and embarrassing. Librarians will tell you that books on sexuality are not often checked out but are secretly paged through. The topic of sex makes us curious, interested, filled with shame, and sometimes even disgusted.
One look at the marketing techniques of Madison Avenue and you will realize that sex is a powerful force. It is used to sell alcohol, cars, and everything else. Television shows and movies are filled with sexual scenes and innuendos. Approximately 15 percent of searches on the Internet are related to porn. Thirty percent of those who are looking for porn are women.
Single or married, male or female, sex is an important and powerful aspect of being human. Because we rarely admit the power of our sexuality, it works in subversive ways, impacting our choices and often becoming a formidable source of temptation and frustration.
What's the Big Deal About Sex?
Human sexuality is an essential aspect of who we are as children of God. God intentionally created us as sexual beings and intentionally designed our sexuality to be a powerful force within us. Because Christians often don’t talk or teach about sex, confusion reigns. Worldly resources like random blogs, erotic novels, and women’s magazines seem to have more sexual advice than Christian resources. Many women are left with the assumption that God just doesn’t have that much to say about sex . . . other than “don’t do it 'til you are married.”1