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The Prayers that Changed Husbands

The Prayers that Changed Husbands

When Tami Chelew got serious about talking to God about her mate, she couldn't believe what happened.
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"Lord, please change Dan," Tami Chelew prayed—not once but many times during her 12-year marriage. Tami admits she was afraid her husband was slipping away from God. His life was filled with stress as he worked fulltime, attended graduate school, and carried the full financial burden for their family.

Tami begged, argued, cajoled, cried, and flat out told Dan he should spend more time praying and studying his Bible—especially during that stressful season. She even strategically placed a Bible at the foot of their bed as a hint.

"I've seen God take our prayers and answer them beyond anything we could have hoped for or imagined."

"I tried everything I could think of to get him to change," says Tami. "I played mother, counselor, spiritual advisor—even Holy Spirit," she adds, smiling and embarrassed as she recalls her controlling behavior.

Then one day after another episode in which she watched her husband choose again not to seek God's wisdom and help in a stressful situation, Tami became desperate—and fed up. She stretched out on her living room floor, face down, and prayed like she'd never prayed before.

"God," she cried. "Dan is yours. Please take charge of his life—because I can't do it any more."

Something wonderful happened in that moment. "I felt the burden of my husband's relationship with God release from my grip. I knew God would answer my request," Tami says. This was the "turning point" in her marriage that she'd wanted for so long.

As Tami lay on the floor, she felt God present her with an idea for how to handle her husband. Instead of pestering him about getting spiritually in sync with God, she could pray for him—really pray for him—and get together with other wives for a consistent and regular prayer time.

Tami wasn't sure how to make that happen, so she left it up to God—since it was his idea.

"Okay, Lord," she said, "if you bring the women, I'll do it."

The next day Tami received a call from her friend Cindy. Just before they ended their conversation, Cindy asked Tami if she'd like to get together to pray for their husbands.

"I nearly dropped the phone," says Tami. "I'd never seen God work so fast!"

That was the confirmation she needed to move forward. "We looked at our calendars," says Tami, "and chose Friday mornings as our time to pray together for our husbands."

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September 23, 2014  1:23pm

Praise be to God I was led to here after opening to Matthew 7:7 and read the passage. Glory be to God, I then searched words "How Christian women pray" and was led here. I believe and always have believed in the power of prayer. Thank you my Christian sisters, God made you a light on the dark path I was feeling. God works in ways no one ever can and why turning to God alone is the only answer. When done in the name of God the most merciful, the most beneficent, he is also the most just. When we want to make life work for God's pleasure and for others needs, not just for self serving needs we are blessed to see and feel God at work. Patience is to remember prayers aren't always answered immediately or to have faith in because God knows what we know not even if we think our prayer wasn't answered what God gives when we have faith is better, maybe the answer even that we first must change including humbling ourselves first placing our face on the ground in prayer. God is Greatest

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miss helen

September 21, 2014  2:42pm

what are great day in my life, i have never been happy like this before in my life, i never knew people still do have power and have the mind and conscience of helping people like me who are in need, i am so happy today because i have found a god father who never disappoint his children in my life, i have been having problem with the man of my heart, i have never did anything that he will always appreciate, he always complain of me anytime i did anything or trying to play with him, even when am doing the right thing at the time, he always complain, not knowing he was meeting another woman outside that's why his behavior change totally, i was so surprised with what i seen in him because i never met him in this way, i do cry always and pray to my GOD to change him, still yet his behavior still going deeper and deeper, he has no respect for the love he has for me, he always beat me and call me all sought of isolative and manners of wayward names, he turned my life up side down and every t

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Monica Montoya

September 20, 2014  4:18pm

hello! I was wondering if I could translate this article to spanish to post it in my blog. this something everyone shuld be able to read. Thanks so much for this article

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