Kirk Cameron: Love is Worth Fighting For
Television and film actor Kirk Cameron, 42, is often recognized for his involvement in classic sitcom series Growing Pains, but in the past decade has taken up residence in Christian media circles. The actor and producer that has been involved with 2012 documentary Monumental, the Left Behind movie series, and 2008 film Fireproof can currently be found on stage ministering through "Love Worth Fighting for" marriage tour stops at venues around the country.
While his curly-haired wig and impressions of Growing Pains character Mike Seaver are enjoyable, his insights and transparency about obstacles in his marriage to fellow actress Chelsea Noble and challenges of parenting six children are captivating. TCW caught up with Kirk last week to hear how he manages to juggle his faith, career and a healthy home-life—here's his story.
What do you think is the biggest battle or issue in troubled marriages?
The truth is that if you're in a marriage, you're struggling. As a human being, the biggest enemy in your marriage is yourself. It's the attitude that rises up inside you that says, What did he just say?, or, Oh no you didn't!, or, Girrrl, you don't speak to me that way! That attitude is inside every human being because we have a human heart that desperately needs to be changed and transformed. That means struggle and difficulty. It doesn't mean that you married the wrong person. It means that you both need to become the person God wants you to be. The school that he puts you in to teach you this is called marriage. It's hard, and there are a lot of tests and challenges, but you have a great teacher. His name is Jesus Christ. He shows you how to do it by laying down his life for people who don't deserve him. You try to become like your teacher; that's what a disciple is—to become like the marriage professor, Jesus, who models what it's like to show unconditional love to a bride who doesn't deserve it.
In your own marriage to Chelsea and having six kids at home, how do you keep faith at the center of your marriage?
Without faith, I don't think I could have a big family and keep my marriage together. The battle with selfishness is too big to win without God's help. God created marriage, and God is the cure for selfishness. He loves my wife and my kids more than anyone, and because I'm his son, he calls me to imitate him. Without faith, the whole thing would be a train wreck. Faith isn't something that I can manufacture. I pray to God to give me faith, integrity, and the ability to repent of my sins and stop blaming my wife, kids, my job, or the economy. I have to realize these are changes that I have to make. These are my issues that I have to deal with. That's a hard thing to do, and I have to rely on God.