Lysa TerKeurst knows a thing or two about battling a busy schedule. A bestselling author, speaker, mom of five, and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa unpacks the deeper spiritual and relational costs of overcommitment in The Best Yes, casting a vision for how we can make practical choices that enable us to live a more discerning and healthy life. TCW connected with Lysa to hear her insights about those critical words, yes and no.
Why did you write The Best Yes?
When I set my life to the rhythm of rush, I don’t like who I am. I don’t feel like the best of me emerges—and I know I’m not alone in that tendency. How I set my schedule is how I live my life, and how I live my life is ultimately how I’m spending my soul. For me, when I live with the stress of an overloaded schedule, I ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul. Once I made that connection between an overwhelmed schedule and an underwhelmed soul, I recognized that it all came down to how I use two powerful words: yes and no.
I write about what I struggle with—and so I spent an intense amount of time studying and writing about my own journey so that I could invite other women into the possibilities of “the best yes” as well.
What are the real costs of living in a “rhythm of rush”?
From a physical standpoint, in terms of the human brain, when we live in a constant state of stress it actually inhibits the release of serotonin that God equipped us with to help stay in a stable place. Prolonged stress in our lives can actually lead to depression. So while stress in the short-term can be motivating or even slightly energizing, when stress becomes the pace of our lives, I just don’t think the best of who we are can emerge.