Taking on the Taboo
They're just three women with families —but they've decided to take up the battle against pornography, prostitution, and sexual addiction.
Their efforts are needed, according to a recent U.S. News and World Report cover story on pornography. Americans spent 8 billion dollars on the industry in 12 months. Each week, the U.S. produces 150 new porn videos, and the number of strip clubs doubled from 1987 to 1992 with about 2,500 nationwide.
Enough Is Enough, an organization battling illegal Internet pornography, claims there are 100,000 commercial porn sites on the Internet with 200 new ones added daily. And more libraries and schools allow unfiltered access to computers. That's why Christian groups are fighting the sex industry—and these women lead efforts in different parts of the conflict.
Stopped at the School Level
Sue McNutt, the mother of two, worked with business management in Omaha, Nebraska. As her company developed its Web site, Sue became increasingly aware of the wonders—and dangers—of the Internet.
When she heard her public school system was gaining access to the Internet, Sue asked for an opportunity to help them write an acceptable-use policy to block students from accessing Internet porn by using filtering programs. Instead, the superintendent at that time wrote his own guidelines—and those included no filters.
"When God is in your life, you see the world and people differently," says Sue. "As a Christian, you want to make a difference."
So Sue went to 50 meetings over a year-and-a-half and made more than 100 phone calls. The battle went from the administration to school board meetings where Sue was able to stop the incomplete policy from being adopted four different times.
Finally, Sue wrote her own policy, which included filtering, to protect students. The Omaha school board voted unanimously to put Sue's policy on the books. Then the unexpected happened.
Nebraska's state-wide educational service group, which provides technology assistance, decided to support the use of filtering software after Sue's win, and even offered it free to all public schools in Nebraska.
"My ultimate goal would be for all schools to filter the Internet," says Sue. "But you have to fight the battles to win the war. You learn not to give up because the cause is right—and God is there fighting with you."
Sue McNutt and her family have since moved to Fort Worth, Texas, where Enough Is Enough has asked her to set up an office. She's now seeking leaders to step forward in their communities to help continue policy change in their schools. You can reach her at 817-514-0234 or e-mail her at email@example.com.
"Be informed," she tells parents. "Do your research … and make sure you have prayer support in this fight."
A Prayer for Strippers
Carolyn McKenzie will never forget an April night in Memphis in 1992. This mother of four and former public-health nurse had organized protests and filed complaints with the district attorney's office over the porn shops and strip clubs that dotted suburban Memphis. But when a detractor accused her of hypocrisy, asking her if she'd ever actually been in those places, Carolyn had to say no. So this spunky, concerned Christian asked a vice cop for a tour of the seamier side of Memphis—and that one ride changed her life.
Her tour started at a midnight peep show. Then the policeman took her to a "modeling agency" and several topless clubs. "I felt so discouraged, like there was no way I could ever begin to affect this industry," Carolyn admits. But it was there she noticed the dancers.
"I was surprised to find out they're actually clean-cut college or career girls," Carolyn explains. "A lot of them are doing this simply because they need the money. The industry says, come in and work—you can make $1,000 a night."
On closer investigation, Carolyn discovered many of the girls had been sexually abused and used drugs or alcohol to get through their nights. Motivated by her faith in Christ and a deep desire to fight vice and injustice, Carolyn decided to provide them with a better way to make a living. With the help of the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families, Carolyn formed an organization called Memphis Citizens for Community Values, which uses mentors from local churches to help dancers leave the industry. That means providing the assistance they need to make the break—including paying their bills, helping them find jobs, and arranging free counseling and medical care.
One 36-year-old woman named Maggie moved in with Carolyn's family. She had been a dancer since she was 13. Maggie's father had raped her as a child and other family members had sexually abused her. Maggie had run away when she was 16 and wandered the Memphis streets before a topless club owner let her move in—and took movies of her in sex acts.
As a teen, Maggie started taking drugs "like candy." Eventually, she decided to end her life. But just in time she came across the phone numbers of Christian groups that offered help. Maggie was about to hang up the phone when Carolyn answered.
"Carolyn's become a real mother to me," Maggie says. "Her family's the family I've been looking for all these years."
Carolyn helped Maggie enroll in a cosmetology program, and she'll graduate soon.
But Maggie isn't the only young woman Carolyn's assisted. Since 1992, Carolyn and the Memphis Citizens for Community Values have helped 30 women leave the sex-for-sale industry in Memphis.
"I look at all these girls as the daughter I never had," says Carolyn. "While each has her own tragic story, I want them to know that, through God they can turn their lives around."
If you want to help in this important ministry, you can reach Carolyn at 901-759-7923 or fax her at 901-382-0131. Or e-mail her at Mark@MarkMcKenzie.com.
Release for the Addicted
The women in a Nashville church circle look like any other 12-step support group. But they share a secret shame: They're sex addicts.
"There really is such a thing as sexual addiction," says Marnie Ferree, a Christian counselor who works with female sex and relationship addicts. "It's not just a male disease."
Marnie knows from experience. She's a recovering sex addict who's been sexually sober for more than six years. Her addiction cost her her first marriage, and she developed cervical cancer from a sexually transmitted disease. "I kept doing what I didn't want to do," she says. "That's the classic definition of addiction."
Marnie traces the root of her sexual addiction to early childhood. Her mother died when she was 3, and her father was a minister who was busy with his church. When she was 5, a 20-year-old family friend molested her. The abuse continued for years.
"I always remembered the incidents," she explains. "But I believed it was my fault because I wasn't raped."
Marnie became promiscuous as a teen and later got married. Despite being active in her church, she still got sexually involved with a series of men, most of whom were older. Finally, with her second marriage in deep trouble and her health ruined because of her addiction, she asked for help.
"I'd been raised in a Christian home, but to me Christianity was more about keeping rules than a relationship with Christ. Because of the sin in my life, I was sure God wanted nothing to do with me," explains Marnie. "But through the help of a Christian therapist and a 12-step support group, I got my life back together. I came to know and serve the God who's changed my life. It's only through dependence on God that I've been able to assist other women."
Marnie got her master's degree in counseling and now works professionally with women sex addicts through the Woodmont Hills Counseling Ministry, an outreach of the Woodmont Hills Church in Nashville.
"For me, it's a visible sign of God's grace; he's taken my pain and sin, and is using them to help others," she says.
Last summer Marnie began holding intensive five-day workshops for female sex addicts that combine clinical treatment with spiritual counseling—the first effort of its kind in the country. So far, nearly 50 women have been through the program.
While participants call the workshop "life-changing," Marnie says it's hard to get the message out. "There's a huge element of denial," she explains. "It takes hitting bottom before a woman can admit she really has a problem. But with God's help, there is a way out."
You can reach Marnie at 615-269-6220 or by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.
CLAY RENICK, a freelance writer, lives in Georgia.
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