Ask the Experts

We already did, and here's what they told us in ten years of MP Interviews

Beginning in 1988, we started talking to the leading specialists in marriage and related fields. As part of our anniversary celebration, here are a few highlights from a decade of collected wisdom on successful relating.

H. NORMAN WRIGHT ON TALKING

Most often, one spouse is quite verbal and the other one isn't. … The less-verbal partners don't want to bring up certain issues because they're afraid it will lead to an hour-long conversation on a ten-minute topic. That often happens, in fact, because the verbal partners are so starved for communication that when their mates do open up, they jump in with both feet.—Summer 1988

JAY KESLER ON HAVING FUN

Ultimately, fun is tied to faith. If we believe the Father cares for us and that somehow life will turn out all right, then we don't have to feel so tense. Uptight people don't seem to have fun—they fear rejection and failure. [But] for the Christian, fun and play ought to come easily.—Summer 1989

MARY ANN MAYO ON SEX

The Bible teaches that each spouse reaches out to the other in ways that they find appealing. There's a message here for us. For women, it's getting in touch with their physical, sensuous side—allowing that to come out. For men, it's getting in touch with the romantic and verbal side, honoring and loving their wife and letting her know it.—Fall 1990

LEWIS B. SMEDES ON RESENTMENT

When forgiveness is necessary, don't wait too long. We must begin to forgive, because without forgiving, we choke off our own joy; we kill our own soul. People carrying hate and resentment can invest themselves so deeply in that resentment that they gradually define themselves in terms of it.—Winter 1991

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Marriage; Relationships; Wisdom
Today's Christian Woman, Spring, 1998
Posted September 12, 2008

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