I once heard that a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. If you've ever gone a month without spending any real quality time with your spouse, you know how negatively it can affect your marriage. All relationships need to be nurtured, and none more than spousal relationships.
Marriage was created to give people companionship: "It is not good for the man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18). A successful Christian marriage may be best seen as a triangle with God at the top and each partner at one of the lower corners. The closer we draw to God, the closer we'll be to each other.
Marriage is not a "done deal" at the altar, followed by happily ever after. It's a continuous, daily "I do." While it may seem impossible to spend quality time alone with your spouse, it can be done. It just takes a little planning and creativity. The following ideas can get you started:
Celebrate a monthly anniversary. Each month on the same date you were married, get a babysitter for the kids and go out on the town. Dinner, a concert, or even simple inexpensive or free dates—such as miniature golf, a picnic in the park, or ice skating—can do a lot to keep the flame burning. You're not likely to forget the reason you got married when you're both celebrating it monthly.
Attend a marriage/couples' retreat. Held year-round throughout the country, usually on weekends, these retreats often include inspirational speakers, beautiful scenery, good food, activities, and plenty of time to be alone with your spouse.1