Talking (and writing) about sex can be quite a challenge. Yes, at times it’s awkward to be open about such a sensitive and taboo topic. I feel bad for my teenage sons when their friends ask, “What does your mom do?” But the real challenge is the fact that sexuality is a spiritual minefield. I’ve never experienced in any other ministry the kind of spiritual warfare that surrounds the topic of sexuality.
Our Enemy, Satan, is intent on destroying healthy, God-honoring sexuality. And he’s been largely successful in his schemes. I’ve rarely met a woman that hasn’t been wounded by distorted sexuality in some way, whether it’s a result of sexual abuse or rape, or being trapped in mommy porn or confused about gender identity—these are just a few of the ways Satan takes the gift of sexuality and twists it into a powerful weapon of destruction. Every woman has felt the “secondhand” effects of pornography and prostitution. The female body is objectified and women feel like sexual objects, even within some marriages.
I’ve noticed that Satan’s activity usually plants itself in fears and in lies. Often, the two feed each other. The lies I believe can cause me to live in fear. Teaching God’s perspective of sexuality means helping women recognize and confront lies. I don’t think most women realize the subtle lies they may believe about sexuality. Here are a few of the most common ones:1