Is it time for a self-assessment?
Though mentors, coaches, and sponsors can help guide your life and career, it’s also critically important not to overlook what may be your most valuable assessment resource: yourself.
Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman are management consultants who specialize in 360-degree reviews. The two have found that, when confronted with their mistakes, people are unsurprised more than 70 percent of the time. Why? Because they already know what the problem is. If I’m honest with myself, I know my own hang-ups, and I’ll bet you do as well.
Recently I found myself feeling stressed and unfocused. Everything seemed overwhelming, impossible, and no fun. There were also other signs of trouble—when I’m overly stressed, my shoulders get tense and hunch high around my ears, my cheeks flush, and my stomach hurts.
These physical signs provide a helpful wake-up call. I know that whenever they kick in it’s time for a good, old fashioned gut-check. Here are the mistakes I look for in a self-assessment. Do you share any of these?
1. Losing My Footing in God’s Word
When I start feeling those knots in my stomach, this is the first place I know I have to look. What’s my time with God been like lately? Has it been missing, rushed, or perfunctory? Sometimes the demands of my life—caring for my daughter Annie, running a nonprofit, keeping up with other commitments—are so pressing and present that they pull my focus away from God. These demands are real, and they require energy and attention, but it’s a mistake to confuse urgency with primacy.1