Let’s face it—most of us could probably stand to have a little more passion in our marriages. That’s why we asked eight Christian marriage experts to give us their best advice for heating things up and restoring the connection you desire. Sexual intimacy is God’s gift to build your marital bond; these insights will equip you to strengthen that critical part of your relationship. Our hope is that you’ll be so encouraged, so motivated, and so energized by these perspectives on sex that tonight, you’ll decide to turn off the TV and instead invest in building the passionate relationship you long for.
1. Connectedness Is Key
At its best, physical intimacy is born out of a deep connectedness and relational intimacy. For some couples, their greatest need might be time or rest to create that space for one another. For others, disconnection is the norm, so they need to spend more time moving toward one another. As a matter of fact, learning to move toward each other in life will make moving toward each other in bed more fulfilling, more real.
—Dr. Kim Eckert, author of Things Your Mother Never Told You: A Woman’s Guide to Sexuality (DrKimEckert.com)
2. Think About It
On a practical note, sex begins in the mind. Many women’s minds are consumed with the eight million responsibilities they have to accomplish that day, and thoughts about sexual intimacy don’t rise to the top. But if you want better sex, you have to think about sex. Not as a task to check off, but as a gift to anticipate and savor.1