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Bored with God

Bored with God

Has your relationship with the Almighty grown stale?
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When I first met my future husband, I couldn't see him or talk to him enough. I was enthralled by him and talked to others about him incessantly ("Scott would love that shirt …. Scott thinks … Scott says … Scott … Scott … Scott …). Almost every minute was crowded by thoughts of him. And when we'd leave each other's presence, I'd count the moments until we could be reunited.

Those feelings remind me of when I first became a Christian. I faithfully read my Bible. I prayed often. My mind was crowded with thoughts of God and I talked to others about him incessantly.

But then, as so often happens in relationships, I grew distant. To be honest, I got used to God. I knew all the Bible stories and could recite them in my sleep. The sermons I heard felt like restatements of things I'd heard a million times before. My prayers stalled at asking for and discussing the same things over and over. And while I still loved God and followed him, the thrill was gone. I felt old in my faith; dusty, in a rut.

At one point as I sat on a beach overlooking Lake Michigan, the reality of my situation overwhelmed me and I cried, "I miss you, God. I miss the joy and excitement of knowing and serving the living God. Why am I so … bored?"

Acknowledging the Elephant in the Room

How many people do you know who will say, "Frankly, I'm bored with God"? Most probably won't because they think lightning will strike them! But I've talked with and watched enough Christians to know many of them feel that way, even if they won't admit it.

Acknowledging my own spiritual boredom that day on the beach became a significant turning point in my relationship with God. I think it was so powerful because I was finally honest with myself, and with my Creator. It's funny that I hid that truth deep inside for so long, thinking that if I didn't acknowledge it then no one—including God!—would know. But it was only when I finally got to the end of myself and spoke the truth that God said, "Finally! Now I have something to work with. Let's get started!"

There's great power in acknowledging aloud what we're feeling about God—even when those feelings are less than enthusiastic. In the movie The Apostle, Eulis "Sonny" Dewey, played by Robert Duvall, is a preacher who discovers his wife is having an affair. In one of the most emotional scenes in the movie, Sonny goes into a room, shuts the door, and has a loud argument with God, expressing every feeling, thought, and attitude toward his Creator. He lays everything out, bares it all, holds nothing back. It's honest and vulnerable and oh-so-raw. And it's beautiful—because it's real.

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Ginger E. Kolbaba

Ginger Kolbaba is the author of Desperate Pastors' Wives and The Old Fashioned Way. Connect with her on Twitter @gingerkolbaba.

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Marcia

March 19, 2013  5:30pm

I could really see myself in this article. I think lately that I have been bored with life in general but especially with my Christian life. I have found a verse that really spolke to me Isaiah 50:10 AMP : "Who is among you who [reverently] fears the Lord, who obeys the voice of His Servant, yet who walks in darkness and deep trouble and has no shining splendor [in his heart]? Let him rely on, trust in, and be confident in the name of the Lord, and let him lean upon and be supported by his God." I really had to admit that I feared God but I just had no shining splendor in my heart for Him or in Him. I always felt like I was in a dark place and in deep trouble but I had no light, well I wasn't looking towards the Lord for that light! I'm still working on it but I think there was finally an answer to how I was feeling. It's funny to me that these days we are so busy and have so many things competing for our attention that we can't seem to enjoy the people we are with at the moment.

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JAN WEEL

March 06, 2013  12:14pm

I read your article, Ginger, with enormous interest. Thirty years ago, as a young married woman of thirty-five, after experiencing a sudden personal trauma, I seemed unable to find the God I had known all my life! Long story short, I learned how to let God find me by practicing daily, twice a day, an ancient way of praying in which you detach from words and thoughts and just 'be' with the Lord in silence for a few minutes. The quieter and less concerned with 'talking' to God that I became, the more real and alive He became to me! The day came when I experienced Him virtually face to face. What you say is so true: God wants to connect with us at a deep level and He also passionately desires that we EXPERIENCE His love. But to do this, we must learn to let go of some of the clutter which gets in the way of entering into His presence more fully! This way of praying transformed my relation with God from the roots up. As a result, for twenty-five years I have successfully taught it to women

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AFurlow

February 17, 2013  7:21pm

Thank you so much for this article. I too have experienced that same "boredom" in my relationship with God and have only stepped "out of the boat" that I had made myself comfortable in. Also, I can relate with your difficulty in dedicating your full attention on God. It had become increasingly difficult for me to focus on my bible study. I have felt jittery and impatient. It is amazing how satan uses technology to take us out of fellowship with God and each other. I feel better that I am not alone in this struggle and appreciate that you put a "mirror" before me so that I can recognize my sin and dishonor of God and others when I don't give them my full attention. Actually, I feel awful when people do it to me. It's time to make some changes.

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