The hand-painted sign hanging above my desk reads, "Thou Shalt Not Whine." Not the eleventh commandment, but close.
Guess who gave me the "no-whine" sign? My dear husband.
He knows I need that daily reminder because I'm a world-class whiner. When life doesn't unfold as planned, I whine. When someone disappoints me, I whine.
I'm working on changing, honey. Truly, I am. Because nothing wears out a man like a nagging woman. In Proverbs we're told, "A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day" (Proverbs 27:15). Come meet a woman whose whining made her rich, yet cost her everything.
Secrets and Lies
The reluctant hero of the story was Samson, who "fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah" (Judges 16:4). Big, strong Samson was a thorn in the side of the Philistines; they visited this valley girl and said, "See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength" (Judges 16:5).
Delilah used her man's greatest weakness-his love for her-to cut him down. The sad truth is, we often gripe around those who love us most, as if testing their commitment: "Can you hear me now? Can you love me still?"
Delilah had an added incentive for testing Samson's love: The Philistines offered her a boatload of money.
Our girl went for it: "Tell me the secret of your great strength and how you can be tied up and subdued" (Judges 16:6). At least she was semihonest.1