"That was our exit!" I pointed out to Les. "You should have turned."
"I thought we were supposed to stay on this road until we got to a light," he said.
It was dark and rainy, and we were desperately late for a dinner appointment at a Seattle restaurant. In exasperation, I pointed to a spot on the map. "Right here is where we're supposed to be." Les studied the map under the dome light. Then he started laughing.
"What's so funny?" I demanded.
"This is a map of Tacoma, not Seattle," he said, still laughing. I had to admit it was pretty funny, and our laughter was welcome relief from the anxiety and tension of being lost.
It helps to know where you're going, especially when it comes to marriage. "Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you," counsels King Solomon in Proverbs 4:25-26. "Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm."
That's good advice whether you are trying to find your way through city streets or charting the course of your marriage. Of course, no matter how much planning you do, no marriage is exempt from a few missed turns. But you can do more than you think you can to successfully navigate the marriage journey and enjoy the comfort and confidence that comes in finding your way together.
The answer begins with having a purpose, a shared marital mission that helps you chart a course. Too many couples get lost because they forgot why they got married to begin with. They had lofty ideals, goals and dreams when they were entering marriage. But amid the hassles of life, they gradually lost sight of their target. They end up feeling frustrated and aimless, frittering away their married life.1