Doing Unto Others—at Home

The first place to live out the Bible's 'love one another' advice is right in your own marriage

Sunday mornings around here are crazy. Inevitably I find only five shoes for six small feet. Somebody leaves a puddle of water on the bathroom floor, and we take turns stepping in it. My hair religiously says "no" to efforts with the blow dryer or curling iron. The kids realize they need to go to the bathroom only after they're pressed and dressed and Dad is waiting in the car.

And then there's the roast. One Sunday morning when we were expecting company for dinner, I put the roast in the oven and forgot to set the timer. We ate sandwiches. The next week I double- and triple-checked the timer. Pierre checked the timer. The oven worked wonderfully, but we left the roast on the counter. We ate beans.

Why bother? Why not just take the day off, like our neighbors do? Because we love church. We love the music and preaching, and we especially crave fellowship with God's people.

Fellowship is the unique and life-changing dynamic of the body of Christ. The apostle Paul describes Christians as members of one another called to serve one another, exhort one another, be devoted to one another, honor one another, encourage one another and bear one another's burdens. That's mutual edification. And Sunday morning's fellowship—after a hectic week at home—is simply refreshing.

Pierre and I stay committed to being with the people in our church because fellowship doesn't happen unless we spend time with them, giving and receiving, so God can produce change in our lives. Funny, though, how sometimes in my rush to be with the family of God, I forget that my number-one source of fellowship is right beside me. My husband, that guy who brings home the lean bacon and takes out the garbage, is also my brother in Christ. As Christians we're exhorted to help build each other's spiritual lives. That means Pierre and I should continually seek ways to "spur one another on toward love and good deeds" (Heb. 10:24). In marriage, God brings another person up close for the purpose of helping us live out all those "one another" commands that Paul wrote about.

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Challenges; Church; Love; Marriage
Today's Christian Woman, Fall, 1998
Posted September 12, 2008

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