"I Wish He Were More Spiritual"

How can I help him get more involved with his faith?
"I Wish He Were More Spiritual"

My husband is a Christian but isn't as interested in being involved in spiritual things as I am. What can I do to help him become more motivated?

This is a common question because many wives have a set concept of the perfect spiritual mate. Many wives wish their husbands would go to church, lead family devotions, pray at meals or as a couple, have deep spiritual conversations with her, or schedule his own devotional time each day. Almost always the husband is doing something, but not everything on her list. If he's committed to going to church each week, if he helps get the children ready and has a positive attitude, give him an A+.

Usually a wife who asks this will have something specific in mind. I'll ask, "Have you ever shared your specific thoughts?" Sometimes she hasn't because she wants it to come from him. This is an unfair expectation because he may have never seen that particular spiritual practice modeled by other men.

The best way to help him is to make a request. If you want him to lead the prayer at meals, you could say, "It would make me really happy to have you initiate prayer at family meals. You could pray or you could ask me or one of the children to pray. That would make me feel good that you were calling our family to prayer." If you share it that way, he'll likely start doing it. And once he does, be sure to appreciate and encourage his attempts.

Perhaps you think, I just wish he would do it without me asking! Marriage is about helping each other. We have to share our desires so the other person knows those desires.

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Confrontation; Differences; Spirituality; Spouse
Today's Christian Woman, September/October , 2012
Posted September 17, 2012

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