I needed to learn when to speak up—and when to shut up.
Recognizing my problem was the first step toward becoming a more effective communicator, as well as a more thoughtful friend and person. Next, I decided to investigate what the Bible had to say about it.
Ecclesiastes 5:3 says, "Too many words make you a fool." And Proverbs 10:19 warns, "Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut." In other words, the more I talk, the more chance I have to say the wrong thing.
I also learned that I can trust God with my reputation. Jesus didn't answer a word to those who hurled insults and allegations. He knew the truth and trusted his Father to justify him.
While there are certainly times to speak up, it's better when I let God be my defender.Adapted from TCW article "Confessions of a (Recovering) Motormouth" by Rebecca Stuhlmiller