"She's pregnant, Carole," My grammie said to my mother as I prayed this wasn't really happening. I can still remember the look of devastation written all over my mother's face when I told her the news. I was 13 weeks pregnant, and I still had my senior year of high school to finish. As I sat on the couch, praying the floor would open up and swallow me, my mama walked out of the room whispering, "I thought I raised you better than this."
My mother was filled with dread and worry as she tried to process the news and grieve the dreams she had for me. At the same time, I was trying to adjust to the idea of high school and motherhood. Being a teenager and not emotionally mature, I was scared that the father of my baby wouldn't be there … and what about college? What about the rest of my life?
Teenagers in the United States have the highest teenage pregnancy rate in the developed world. According to Teenhelp.com, 34 percent of teenagers have had at least one pregnancy for before the age of 20. With popular shows like The Secret Life of the American Teenager and MTV's Teen Mom, teenagers are becoming desensitized to the shock factor of teenager pregnancy and yet many still think, "It won't happen to me." Teenage parents are from all ethnic and social groups, including girls and guys who come from middle-class families and have grown up in the church.
Parents are shocked and devastated when their godly child comes to them with a positive pregnancy test or the news his girlfriend is expecting. Yet there is hope—hope for the future and for restoration in their relationship with God.1