Growing up in the church, I've heard countless sermons on that wonderful role-model—the Proverbs 31 woman. She made warm clothes for her children, was kind to her servants, and was even a business woman. No doubt, she was an excellent wife, mother, and member of the community.
But now I've became aware of another biblical role model for women—the bride in the Song of Solomon. Sure, I had read this little book before, but I had never really studied it. Frankly, I just didn't get it with all the jumping deer and poetry about gardens and fruit. Then my good friend, Linda Dillow, urged me to study it and write what I learned from the young bride about being a lover to my husband, Mike.
Boy, was I in for a surprise. This woman who lived thousands of years ago was quite a lover. She wasn't the "I'll do my wifely duty" type. She went after sexual passion in her marriage using her body, thought life, words, and creativity to get her husband's full attention. Like the Proverbs 31 woman, she isn't given a name, so I gave her one: She is one "Smokin' Hot Mama!"
So why isn't the Smokin' Hot Mama extolled as a powerful role model for married women—right up there with the Proverbs 31 superhero? Why is buying and selling a field praised, while the passionate pursuit of love is ignored?1