Beyond the Birds and the Bees

3 conversations to have before your child goes off to college
Beyond the Birds and the Bees

Before you know it, he will be out the door and taking his first steps into adulthood. Before you know it, your job as mom will radically change, from mom of a teenager to mom of a young adult. Before you know it, your little baby will be all grown up. So, before that “before you know it” time arrives, seize the present moment to connect with your teenager as you both prepare for his transition to college. Whether your teenager is an enthusiastic conversationalist or a monosyllabic grunter, these three conversations are critical to have before he spreads his wings to fly from the nest.

These are more than just one-time conversations. Start them, continue them, and pray through them.

1. Be wise. Selecting a college and planning well regarding money all requires a great deal of wisdom. Sit down together to think through the options and model good decision-making skills that she can take with her into the future. Arm yourself with key principles and practical resources regarding college choices by using the powerful insights from college counselor Janet Johnson you’ll find in “College Prep Pointers.” And ready your child to be a smart steward of her money by putting into place some of the principles suggested by financial expert Mary Hunt in “Dollars and Sense.”

2. Hang on to faith. Statistics abound regarding Christian kids who abandon their faith in college. What makes the difference? How can your child stay strong in his commitment to Christ? Talk with your child about how he can connect with a strong Christian community on his campus (such as plugging into a campus club and a local church) or, if he’s attending a Christian college, discuss ways he can benefit from the spiritual resources, friends, and potential mentors he’ll interact with there. But guess what, Mom: some of the most powerful means of helping your child hang on to faith when he’s in college start now while he’s still in your home. Dr. Kara E. Powell’s “Parenting Doesn’t End with Graduation” will point you toward critical ways you can invest today and in the future to help your child’s faith “stick.”

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Kelli B. Trujillo

Kelli B. Trujillo is editor of Today’s Christian Woman. Follow her on Twitter at @kbtrujillo or @TCWomancom.

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Adjustment; Communication; Empty Nest; Parenting
Today's Christian Woman, College Guide: For Soon-to-Be College Parents, 2014
Posted November 4, 2014

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