Arms Wide Open
Two and a half years after our move to Juneau, Alaska, the time came for another transition—this time to Colorado. After our move—once our furniture was unpacked and our clothes tucked away—I knew the time had come to start building a new life. We began in our neighborhood. When a couple strolled past our driveway, we rushed out to greet them. As we worked in the yard, we waved and said hello to anyone who came out to retrieve their mail. But the "Hey, neighbor" conversations never moved beyond anything surfacy and shallow.
Making friends always takes time, I assured myself. Deciding to try again, we welcomed another couple into our home. In our harried preparation of dinner, I had forgotten to set the formal dining room table. We decided to just grab our plates of food and eat around our old table in the living room instead.
Conversation danced like the vivid warm flames of our fireplace. Topics shifted from work and play to theology and technology. We exchanged honest stories of heartaches and celebration. We laughed hard and often. The connection I craved in friendship was satisfied. More than anything I didn't want the evening to end. I experienced the wonder of friendship, and I never wanted to let go.
The temptation to live a guarded life allures everyone, but walls constructed for protection ultimately lead to isolation. When we develop healthy boundaries and a sustainable rhythm in life, we have more—not less—time for deep, meaningful relationships.
Receiving the life God has for you requires vulnerability. God wants you to build a life without walls—one in which he is your protection—allowing you to live with arms wide open, where you can know and be fully known. Such a place doesn't exist without moments of hurt, rejection, and misunderstanding, but in this posture, you lay hold of the wonder of friendship God intended all along.
Adapted from TCW article "The Wonder of Friendship" by Margaret Feinberg.
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