I loathe confrontation. I am sometimes called a "peacemaker," but the truth is I have always been easily pacified by a counterfeit peace that is really less about making waves and more about right relationship. At the other extreme, I've watched assertive friends make pseudo-peace by the sheer force of their persuasive personalities.
Neither the passive nor the aggressive route brings the kind of peace Jesus had in mind when he said, "God blesses those who work for peace" (Matthew 5:9). Real peace is not just about the ceasing of conflict between relatives, ethnic groups, or nations—it's also about dealing with underlying causes. Be it the Middle East or the middle of my family room, there are forces of evil at work, manifesting themselves as greed, ego, insecurity, and sometimes aggression.
The problems are infinitely complex; my default response is to shrug my shoulders in low-grade despair. But I know better. I know that Jesus not only desires peace, he is peace. And he wants us to be not only its recipients, but also its agents.
There is a scene in Monty Python's Life of Brian in which Jesus is delivering his Sermon on the Mount. A woman at the back can't quite hear, and when Jesus intones, "Blessed are the peacemakers," she asks, "What's so special about the cheesemakers?" To which her husband replies, "Well, obviously it's not meant to be taken literally; it refers to any manufacturers of dairy products."