How to Have a Perfect Life

(and be miserable trying)
How to Have a Perfect Life

Live better. Love better. Bake better. Parent better.

Achieve more. Earn more. Give more. Be more.

Eat less. Waste less. Complain less. Weigh less.

Run harder. Kiss harder. Laugh harder. Try harder.

Buy bigger. Drive bigger. Travel bigger. Dream bigger.

Look perfect. Sound perfect. Act perfect. Be perfect.

Perfection: it’s an ideal we aim for, motivated by love or hope or sheer gumption. It’s a dream we build toward, a pinnacle our culture clamors to reach.

But it’s a myth—a shimmering, alluring mirage we grasp after, yet leave empty handed. That resulting emptiness fools us into measuring our lives and finding them lacking: not beautiful enough, not problem free enough, not impressive enough, just plain not enough.

One of the most freeing truths of Scripture is also one of the very ugliest: “For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard” (Romans 3:23). It’s freeing in the recognition this mirror of truth offers to us: we can see ourselves in our brokenness and rightly acknowledge our glaring imperfection. We can step off the hamster wheel of better, more, harder, and bigger and step into the arms of grace, forgiveness, redemption, and hope.

Perfectionism is a self-deceiving game that leaves us weary losers every time. But in our imperfection—from a posture acknowledging our limits, failings, needs, and weaknesses— we can turn toward the perfect Father and his complete love. We can find a wholeness that has nothing to do with better or more but that’s all about grace and hope. We can find joy, direction, comfort, and fresh mercies in the faithful presence of our God who is the very essence of holy perfection ().

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Kelli B. Trujillo

Kelli B. Trujillo is editor of Today’s Christian Woman. Follow her on Twitter at @kbtrujillo or @TCWomancom.

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Body Image; Brokenness; Dating; Parenting; Perfectionism
Today's Christian Woman, November Week 2, 2014
Posted November 12, 2014

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