How to Protect Your Marriage from Infidelity

5 things couples can do now
How to Protect Your Marriage from Infidelity

Against a cultural backdrop where cheating is more prevalent and easier than ever, what can couples do to strengthen their relationships?

1. Take a hard look at how you’re spending your time. On a weekly basis, we need to be giving our spouse significant periods of undivided attention for affection, conversation, recreational companionship, and sexual fulfillment, says Willard Harley, a licensed psychologist in Minnesota and author of the best-selling book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage. (Sitting adjacent to each other in bed or on the couch while scrolling your smartphone or device doesn’t count.) Think about how you spent your time with your spouse when you first were falling in love—there was lots of communication happening, long hours of conversation, and time spent doing activities you enjoyed. “If you do the things that people in love do, you’re going to tend to remain in love,” Harley says.

2. Steal time from your kids. “Your kids will never say, ‘Oh mom and dad, you should go away for the weekend. You need some time alone,’” says Dave Carder, a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and author of several books on marriage and infidelity. “That’s just not going to happen. So you have to make it happen. And you need to do it regularly and set a model for them to follow.”

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Corrie Cutrer

Corrie Cutrer is a writer who lives in Tennessee with her family. She's also a former assistant editor of Today's Christian Woman and recipient of several EPA writing awards. She is currently a regular contributor for Today's Christian Woman.

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