The church in America is puzzled. Young adults are leaving in droves. Magazines, books, and blogs are wagging the finger of blame to point out who is responsible. Some say it is a failure of youth ministry, some point to church budgets, and some nail the blame on outdated, unhip worship services. We parents are shocked that our kids just aren’t all that into Jesus.
When I look for someone to blame, I head into the restroom and look into a mirror. Yup, there he is. I blame him. That parent looking back at me is where I have to start.
If you’re a parent, I’m probably going to upset you. But, hear me out. I think that we, as parents, are guilty of some things that make it easy for our kids to put faith low on their priority list.
What to Avoid
1. Putting academic pursuits above faith-building activities. Don’t encourage your child to put everything else aside for academic gain. After all, when they’re 24 and not interested in faith or following Christ, you probably won’t still be thrilled they got an A in pre-calculus. Do you remember who graduated in the top five of your high school class? Unless you were one of them, I bet you have no idea. I don’t. Instead of teaching your kids that all else comes second to academics, teach them balance.
2.Chase the gold ball first and foremost. Although you may think your kid is a star, the probability is that he’s not, so don’t drive 400 miles so he can play hockey but meanwhile refuse to take him to a home group Bible study because it’s 20 minutes away.1