It’s one of the most-read Today’s Christian Woman articles of all time. No, it’s not written by a famous person. No, it’s not about a stunning cultural event. And no, it’s not about sex.
It’s simply a story of hope and healing.
“The List That Saved My Marriage” by Becky Zerbe was first published in 2005 in Marriage Partnership (a Christianity Today publication at the time). Later that same year, Becky and her husband were tragically killed in a car accident. Yet the story of God’s powerful work in their marriage continues to impact hundreds of thousands of lives more than a decade later.
What is it that’s so compelling about Becky’s story?
Becky had reached the end of her rope. She was at rock bottom and had decided to leave her husband. I think many readers can relate to her deep hurts and frustrations—even readers who’ve never had a rock-bottom moment as painful as Becky’s. Every wife or husband knows that marital struggles can be very hard and can feel hopeless. This degree of hurt and struggle can happen in any marriage—yes, even Christian ones.
In her article Becky describes arriving at her parents’ home, suitcase in hand and child in tow, ready to move in. Becky had her reasons for leaving her husband, and her mom knew it.
Yet Becky’s mom gave her a paper and a pen, and asked her to do something.
I don’t want to give away what happened next. You’ll need to read the article yourself! But suffice it to say that Becky walked through deep spiritual conviction and came out on the other side with hope.1