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How can I ditch my single-mom guilt?

I'm a single mom and have to work to keep food on the table. I'm exhausted by the time I pick up my kids at daycare, and I don't feel I'm giving my two girls—two and five—much quality time. Their dad is pretty much out of the picture. Any suggestions on how to be a better mom and lose the guilt?

Within your last question is the answer to the first: Lose the guilt. Easier said than done, I know. But try this approach—take a look at your inadequacy from God's perspective. He says to the apostle Paul in 2 Corinthians 12:8, "My gracious favor is all you need. My power works best in your weakness" (NLT).

I've seen this happen repeatedly: When I've reached the end of my rope, that's when the Lord steps in and makes the difference. You can trust he'll do the same for you in your situation.

God even specifically addresses you in his Word. In Isaiah 54:5-6, he says, "For your Maker is your husband … The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit." To your daughters he calls himself "a father to the fatherless" (Psalm 68:5). God promises to be all that you and your precious little girls need.

When I've reached the end of my rope, that's when the Lord steps in and makes the difference.

A verse I hold tightly when I'm feeling like a failure as a mother is Isaiah 54:13, "All your [children] will be taught by the Lord, and great will be your children's peace." Isn't it comforting to remember it isn't all up to us? First and foremost, our babies are God's children, and he loves them even more than we do.

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