What do moms really worry about? At MOPS International, we asked this question of our 100,000 moms around the world, and they candidly shared their stories of worry and fear. We were able to sort them into five general categories, according to the order in which they mentioned them.
Fear 1: What if I’m not enough?
Every mom wants to be the best mom she can be, and research shows her top fear is that she will not be able to provide the financial resources and support her child will need, as well as the emotional resilience to handle the ups and downs that come with being a mom. First-time moms also worry about the practical aspects of caring for a newborn. Will I know what to do when she has a fever? How will I get him to stop crying if I don’t even know why he’s crying? What if I can’t handle it? These are natural fears as you face the unknowns of parenting, and it’s common to feel overwhelmed.
Fear 2: What if someone takes my child from me?
I will admit I wasted much time worrying about this myself. Whenever I would hear a story of a child disappearing or being abducted, my heart would race with fear. For me, this translated into an obsessive compulsion to never let my kids out of my sight, and I worried even when they were at a sleepover or out with someone I knew well. What if they wandered off by themselves and I wasn’t there to help? The fear of not being able to control the situation when my kids were out of my sight was sometimes excruciating. Many moms shared feeling the same way.1